DETANGLING PROCESS

My cousin and I were working late at night trying to rescue one of my weaves which had become super tangled. Prior to now, I had given my stylist to help me wash and handle. One look at it, he declared that the weave was useless and only fit for the bin because to him, it seemed irredeemable.

I quietly picked my weave and gave my best friend who believed she may be able to assist. A bottle of conditioner later, some shampoo and a trip to the microwave still seemed fruitless. My acquaintance had handed it her best shot, merely like the hairdresser, she stated it could not be salvaged.

So there I was, with a now semi dry and super tangled weave. I thought it best to simply throw the wave away and cut my loss, but goodness that weave was super expensive and I just could not bear to let it go so I decided to give it one last try.

Fortunately for me, my cousin had come to visit and was willing to help me work on it. Gently and patiently we kept trying to detangle and comb out each line. Sometimes, I got frustrated at some and would just want to dump it, but my cousin would pick them up and work her way through it patiently till it was loose enough for me to comb.

About three hours later, we were finally done!!! I had lost a little hair from the detangling process, but  had salvaged more than I had lost and much more than I would have, assuming I had taken the advice from my stylist to throw it away from the get go.

While working on the weave with my cousin, God laid this in my heart:

Lesson: sometimes, life can get complicated. We can make wrong decisions or bad choices, e.g. wrong choice of spouse, have a one night stand that gets you pregnant, join bad friends, start a habit that leads to a nasty addiction, live in outright disobedience to God and his commands, etc. and we end up in a tangled web of mistakes as well as regret, confusion, frustration, anger and bitterness to mention a few.

At times, our situation gets so bad that people are willing to give up on us, some may try a little (like my best friend) but when it gets too complicated, they also may throw in the towel.

The only person in this life who will not give up is the owner. This may simply be because of the value he/she places on the object as well as how much it cost him.  I knew what that weave meant to me and how much it cost me to get it so I was willing to fight and work to see it restored. Any idea to salvage it, I was ready to try. In like manner, that is how God works with and in us, if we allow him to help us when we mess up or just have a record of bad choices. Sometimes we get ourselves in the mess while other times we just find ourselves all tangled up. God takes his time to detangle us the way I and my cousin took time to detangle the weave.

You/ we are worth way more to God than any weave. The blood of his only son is what he used to purchase us and so he is never one to give up on us. That is why Romans 8:28 says ‘for we know that all things (good, bad, right choices, wrong ones) work together for the good of those who trust God and are called by his name’.

Family, friends and well-meaning people can give it their best, but once it is beyond them, they can give up on us. The only one who is always ready and willing to talk it through to the end is God.

Prayer: Dear Lord, help me always find my way back to you when I stray. May I never forget your undying love for me.